Short Thoughts On Marriage
Marriage is wonderful, but unless both
are children of God through faith in Christ, and unless both put
Christ first as Lord in their lives, then a marriage can never
be what the Lord meant marriage to be. This would always be
true, but it is doubly true in a day such as our own which is so
filled with confusion and tensions. It is only when each one
puts Christ first that there can be a sufficient base. And
though at first it might seem as though this would be disruptive
to a marriage – to have even Christ put before the other one –
yet it is not this way. This is so because, if we put Christ
before the other person, we will then be able to love and be
thoughtful of the other person in a way that would not be
possible if that person was put first.
- Francis Schaeffer
And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one
another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.
|The reality of life is that
unexpected things and accidents will happen. Except in
some few cases, we will all grow old eventually. If you can't
imagine that fellow ever being willing to help you go to the bathroom, eat, dress,
put your shoes on, etc.; you
probably should not be considering him for a husband.
|Some people say they "must" divorce because
they are "incompatible." What they are really saying is that they
themselves are incapable of dealing with incompatibility. Really,
they are saying they are incapable of dealing with real life, because
real life is full of situations with which we are "incompatible." They are plainly declaring their own weakness and unwillingness to
humble themselves in order to live peaceably with the person to whom
they pledged their love and faithfulness before God. Curiously,
they expect us to trust them in other areas of life.
1 Corinthians 4:2
Moreover it is
required in stewards, that a man be found faithful.
||Marriages do not fail.
People fail. This is why it is of the utmost
importance to build your individual lives and your life
together upon the sure foundation of Jesus Christ, who never
fails. If you are both built firmly on that Rock, your
marriage will be also.
6:47-49 Whosoever cometh to me, and heareth my sayings, and
doeth them, I will shew you to whom he is like: He is like a
man which built an house, and digged deep, and laid the
foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream
beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for
it was founded upon a rock. But he that heareth, and doeth
not, is like a man that without a foundation built an house
upon the earth; against which the stream did beat
vehemently, and immediately it fell; and the ruin of that
house was great.
Before the Wedding
Before I trust my life to you,
Or place my hand
Before I let your future give
Color and form to mine;
I peril all to thee,
Question your soul tonight for me.
Does there within
your dimmest dreams
A possible future shine
Wherein your life could henceforth
Untouched, unshared by mine?
If so, at any pain or cost,
tell me before all is lost.
and graphics by Mary Stephens
updated 2018; CA