Comfort from A Tormented Life
|2 Corinthains 1:5 For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation also aboundeth by Christ. 6 And whether we be afflicted, it is for your consolation and salvation, which is effectual in the enduring of the same sufferings which we also suffer: or whether we be comforted, it is for your consolation and salvation.|
Son of John, rector of Berkhampstead. His mother [Ann] died when he was six. He attended Westminster School from 1742 to 1749. Cowper was in love with his cousin, Theodora Jane Cowper, sister of Lady Heskith, and wanted to marry her. Her father, Ashley, objected on the grounds of the near relationship and William’s inadequate fortune. Neither William nor Theodora ever married. He was called to the bar as a member of the Middle Temple in 1754 and offered the clerkship of the journals of the House of Lords in 1763. Overwhelmed, he became seriously depressed. His cousin, Martin Madan, tried to give him some spiritual help before he was referred to Dr. Cotton’s asylum in St. Alban’s in December. While there, he became a Christian and deliberately stayed on longer than necessary in order to receive spiritual help from Dr. Cotton. When he left he moved to Huntingdon, where he met the Unwins and moved in with them. He considered entering the ministry in 1766. After Rev. Morley Unwin’s death he and Mary Unwin moved to Olney at the invitation of Newton.
Cowper and Newton were inseparable, Cowper becoming in effect “the Curate’s curate.” Newton recognized Cowper’s literary talents and had his individual poems published. He wrote the preface to the first edition of his collection, Poems. Cowper acknowledged, “The honor of your preface prefixed to my poems will be on my side; for surely to be known as the friend of a much-favored minister of God’s word is a more illustrious distinction, in reality, than to have the friendship of any poet in the world to boast of.”
When Cowper showed signs of returning depression Newton suggested they work together on providing hymns for the weekly meetings. This gesture of friendship resulted in many hymns grounded in prayer and scripture which still give much encouragement and incentive to worship today, two hundred years later, all over the world.
Cowper visited the sick and took a special interest in the welfare of the lace-makers. He sometimes led at the church prayer meetings. Samuel Teedon, the village schoolmaster, considered, “Of all the men I ever heard pray, no one equaled Mr. Cowper.” Newton s testimony to him in his Incomplete Memoirs was, “He loved the poor. He often visited them in their cottages, conversed with them in the most condescending [obliging] manner, sympathized with them, counseled and comforted them in their distresses; and those who were seriously disposed were often cheered and animated by his prayers!”
Cowper was fiercely defendant of Newton. His personal copy of An Apology for Protestant Dissenters shows his spontaneous reaction, in scribbled verse (p.427), to reading this written criticism of Newton: “In reply to Mr. Newton’s fourth argument (in which in the usual cant of these Reformers, he pleads, that the Lord...)”.
critics who to faith no quarter grant,
After Cowper’s death, some unjustified blame was put on Newton for his depression. William Jay [who knew them both] comments on this, “Some have thought the divine was hurtful to the poet. How mistaken were they! He was the very man, of all others, I should have chosen for him. He was not rigid in his creed. His views of the Gospel were most free and encouraging. He had the tenderest disposition; and always judiciously regarded his friend’s depression and despondency as a physical effect, for the removal of which he prayed, but never reasoned or argued with him concerning it.”
When Cowper and Mary Unwin moved from Weston, Underwood in their final years to stay with his cousin Johnson, he wrote these lines in pencil on the window shutter of a bedroom overlooking the garden of the Lodge,
“Farewell, dear scenes, for ever closed to me,
(Excerpted from "The Life Of John Newton By Richard Cecil" edited by Marylynn Rouse, published by Christian Focus, 2000)
The Effects of Childhood Tragedy
Mark 9:42 And whosoever shall offend one of these little ones that believe in me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea.
Cowper's mother died when he was a small child. Sadly, her maids tried to soften the blow to him by lying to him about what happened to her. This cruel situation undoubtedly caused some serious issues for him in life. We read:
"Ann’s foolish but well-intentioned maids tried to keep the news from William and told the poor boy that his mother had gone on a journey and would soon be back. William, however, had understood more than the maids realized. Looking back on those unhappy days Cowper wrote,
'I heard the bell tolled on thy burial day,
The maids, however, persisted in telling William tales of his mother’s impending return, so that the child began to believe that he had misunderstood death and to hope against hope that he would see his mother again in this life. When he was finally forced to accept reality and see that the maids had been talking foolish nonsense, his grief was all the greater."
(excerpted from William Cowper: Poet Of Paradise by George Ella, published by Evangelical Press 1993)
Editor's note: I would like to mention something here. I have felt for some time now that childhood experiences can and do leave a huge impression on children's minds and emotions. I think that sometimes we are not aware of the extent this can effect later life. This may be heightened for those who are destined to suffer from depression or anxiety. In other words, childhood experiences may have a deeper and more lasting effect on people who are genetically wired for the depression type personality.
Some people will say that with proper effort and determination one can just "get over it", so to speak. I don't think this is always possible. I do think, however, that it is helpful to recognize things one may be holding onto from childhood and to deal with those things with the Lord's help and guidance. I'm not suggesting "regression therapy" or anything where psychologists or psychiatrists dig around in the alleged "subconscious" memory and pull up things both true and false. I'm talking about things that we can identify readily and that perhaps the Lord brings to mind when thinking in this vein.
I know for my own part that I can remember thinking some very strange thoughts as a child. I have no clue where they came from or why I imagined them. But, it does give me some insight into the strange thoughts that sometimes plague me now. I suspect there is a connection, though I'm not confident what it may be. Certain fears and phobias I have I can readily connect to certain things that happened to me early in life. For example, my tendency to be overly cautious about germs at least partly comes from the fact that I lived in Africa as a small child. My parents were very careful and taught me to be more conscious of this from a very early age due to the risk of very serious diseases where we lived. I knew the water was not "safe" unless it was boiled, and washing or cleaning hands was an important ritual. I have hated dirty public restrooms since I was a child.
I am mentioning this here because it seems to me that Cowper's experience with his mother's death and the maids lying to him about it could have left a serious dark spot in his mind and emotions. Parents and those who are responsible for small children are not able to avoid all trauma that may cause present and future distress, especially to a child with an overly sensitive nature. But, I think it is good to keep this in mind and at least make an effort to be honest, to be practical as much as possible, and to keep the stress level as low as possible where serious needs or difficulties arise.
I do not blame parents for such mistakes, though. It is part of the intricacies of life. Some are unavoidable and others are not foreseeable. I think it would be most difficult for those parents who also suffer from depression and anxiety themselves, and for those who have a robust personality and don't understand the timid or fearful. We can't always know what is going to leave a lasting negative impression on a child. But, it is good to remember these things and to use discretion when possible. Overprotection is not usually good, but in some cases extra protection is certainly called for.
Newton’s Account of Mr. (William) Cowper in a Funeral Sermon
Exodus Chapter 3 verses 2,3: And the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a flame of fire out of the midst of a bush. and he looked, and behold, the bush burned with fire and the bush was not consumed. And Moses said, I will now turn aside, and see this great sight, why the bush is not burnt.
The Lord has given me many friends but with none have I had so great an intimacy, as with my friend Mr. Cowper. But he is gone. I was glad when I heard it. I know of no text in the whole book of God’s word more suited to the case of my dear friend than that I have read. He was indeed a bush in flames for 27 years but he was not consumed. And why? Because the Lord was there. I think it probable there is hardly a person in the church who ever saw him yet there is few but know him in his writings. I can think of no motto more suitable than that of the apostle as unknown yet well known particularly in his poems, 2nd volume, called The Task by which he being dead yet speaketh — speaks to the glory of God and the good of mankind and which I think will not be forgotten as long as the English language is current.
Mr. Cowper was afflicted with what is called a nervous complaint to such a degree as might justly be called insanity. He had an attack very early in life which did not continue long. He was afterward at the Temple, being designed for the Law. He became acquainted with Mr. Coleman and a Mr. & Lord Thurlow. He assisted them in writing a book [periodical] called the Connoisseur. Those four men were very gay and men of great abilities but the Lord had designs of mercy towards my friend. One night he had a remarkable dream or vision.
He thought a child, a very beautiful little boy, came and looked on him while he was asleep. When he awoke he felt his mind much affected by his dream, but as he was sitting at his breakfast the Lord shone in upon his soul and so enlightened his understanding and gave such a clear view of the gospel and his interest in it without his ever reading it or hearing a gospel sermon that for seven years afterwards I never in all my life saw a man walk — I want to say so honorably —but so closely with God and always set the Lord before him in all he did. I believe during that time we were not seven hours without being together.
The last sermon he ever heard preached was on New Year’s Day 1773. He drank tea with me in the afternoon. The next morning a violent storm overtook him which caused a very great shyness. I used to visit him often but no argument could prevail with him to come to see me. He used to point with his finger to the church and say: you know the comfort I have had there and how I have seen the glory of the Lord in his house and until I can go there I’ll not go anywhere else. But after some time this shyness wore off. I remember one time we were walking together in a very deep snow. The weather was remarkably severe. He desired me to stop. I observed the sweat drop from his face occasioned by the agony of his mind. He said he knew the Lord was a Sovereign and had a right to do with and lay upon him what he pleased and if he [it?] was that by holding out a finger he could remove what he then felt, he would not do it unless he knew it were the will of God. He has often said he thought the Lord had not a child who loved him with a more simple heart than he did.
The first temptation the enemy assaulted him with was to offer up himself as Abraham his son. He verily thought he ought to do it. We were obliged to watch with him night and day. I, my dear wife and Mrs. Unwin with whom he lived left him not an hour for seven years. He was also tempted to think butcher’s meat was human flesh, therefore he would not take it. We found it very difficult to provide any sustenance he would take. He had various temptations which would be very improper for me to mention in this place. I was at that time obliged to leave Olney but the Lord did not leave him without friends but provided for him persons of abilities and respect who did that for love which no money could have procured. I don’t know a person upon earth I consult upon a text of Scripture or any point of conscience so much to my satisfaction as Mr. Cowper.
He could give comfort though he could not receive any himself. He was not only a comfort to me but a blessing to the affectionate poor people among whom I then lived. He used frequently to visit them and pray with them. I had the honor to be rector[?] over a set of poor plain people chiefly lace makers. Their great confinement caused in them great depression of spirits. They used to say, "O Sir if I was right, sure I should not feel so." But they well knew Mr. Cowper: they knew he was right, and from him they could take comfort.
I have had hopes the Lord would remove his malady a little time before his death but it continued. The last twelve hours of his life he did not speak nor seem to take notice of anything but lay in a state of apparent insensibility. But I seem to think that while the curtains were taking down in the tabernacle removing, glory broke in upon his soul. The Lord had set his seal upon him and though he had not seen him he had grace to love him. He was one of those who came out of great tribulation. He suffered much here for twenty-seven years, but eternity is long enough to make amends for all. For what is all he endured in this life, when compared with that rest which remaineth for the children of God?
No one was
ever scolded out of their sins.
Habits of close attention, thinking heads,
Whoever keeps an open ear
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