That they may teach the young
women to be sober,
to love their
to love their children,
5 To be discreet, chaste,
keepers at home, good,
obedient to their own husbands,
that the word of
God be not blasphemed.
If any man thinks housekeeping is easy work
and not all a woman
ought to do, just let him
roll up his sleeves and tackle the job!
Marching to Zion
do I respond to those who disapprove of me?
Christian Mother's Life
am beginning to learn that it is the sweet, simple things of life which are the
real ones after all." Laura Ingalls Wilder|
the Hands and Hearts
True testimonies of women
who left the work place.
I Love Homemaking...
& As About Earning from Home
Do Women Want?
to Become More Hospitable
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A few months ago, when I was picking up the children at
school, another mother I knew well, rushed up to me. Emily was fuming with indignation.
"Do you know what you and I are?" she demanded.
Before I could answer - and I didn't really have one handy - she blurted out
the reason for her question. It seemed she had just returned from renewing her
driver's license at the County Clerk's office. Asked by the woman recorder to
state her "occupation," Emily had hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.
"What I mean is," explained the recorder, "Do you have a job,
or are you just a ......?"
"Of course I have a job," snapped
Emily. "I'm a mother."
"We don't list "mother" as an occupation..."housewife"
covers it," said the recorder emphatically.
I forgot all
about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation, this time
at our own Town Hall. The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient,
and possessed of a high-sounding title, like "Official Interrogator" or "Town
"And what is your occupation?" she probed.
What made me say it, I do not know. The words simply popped
"I'm....a Research Associate in the field of Child
Development and Human Relations."
The clerk paused, ball-point
pen frozen in mid-air, and looked up as though she had not heard right. I repeated
the title slowly, emphasizing the most significant words. Then I stared with wonder
as my pompous pronouncement was written in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.
"Might I ask," said the clerk with new interest, "just what
you do in your field?"
Cooly, without any trace of fluster
in my voice, I heard myself reply, "I have a continuing program of research (what
mother doesn't) in the laboratory and in the field (normally I would have said
indoors and out). I'm working for my Masters (the whole family) and already
have four credits (all daughters). Of course, the job is one of the most demanding
in the humanities (any mother care to agree?) and I often work 14 hours a day
(24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill
careers and the rewards are in satisfaction rather than just money."
There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she completed
the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.
As I drove into our driveway buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was greeted
by my lab assistants---age 13, 7, and 3. And upstairs, I could hear our new experimental
model (six months) in the child-development program, testing out a new vocal pattern.
I felt triumphant. I had scored a beat on bureaucracy.
And I had gone down on the official records as someone more distinguished and
indispensable to mankind than "just another......"
a glorious career. Especially when there's a title on the door.
Editor's note: Are you working
on your degree?
2:4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to
love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good,
obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
What's the pay?
31:28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed;
her husband also,
and he praiseth her.
A paraphrase of a Bible parable for today's
A certain man had a wife
and three children. The wife becoming dissatisfied with being a mother and
doing housework and coveting the money and material belongings of her neighbors,
said to her husband: "Secure for me the social security number that falleth to
me, divide unto me thy wardrobe of trousers, and I will go out into the world
and seek a man's job." With reluctant heart the husband granted her desire and
divided his wardrobe.
Not many days later the wife donned
slacks and with a tool box took her journey far across town and secured a man's
job. She made big wages but she associated with the wicked and listened
to the vulgar stories that they told. There was a mighty spiritual famine in the
land, and she grew lean in her soul.
The children turned
loose at the mercy of the neighbors, soon forgot they had a mother. But
the husband fondly remembered how it was in the home when the wife had been there
and wished that she would return. He dined on cold lunch meat while the
wife tried in vain to fill her stomach with the husks of cheese crackers that
fell from the vending machine. And no man gave unto her the respect due
to a lady. One day at rest period as she sat engulfed in cigarette smoke
and smutty stories, she came to herself. "Here I sit surrounded by
vulgarity having sacrificed the respect due to a lady. At home is my deserted
husband, and roaming the streets unrestrained are my children. The money
I make seems so small when compared to the peace of mind and soul that was mine
before I left home."
In vain she did try to smother her
conscience with thoughts that she was contributing to the family's economic welfare. However,
it was in vain. Therefore she said to herself, "I will arise and go to my husband
and will say to him, 'Husband, I have sinned against heaven in neglecting you
and the children in this way. I am no more worthy to be called thy wife
nor mother to thy children; make me thy hired housekeeper.'" So, she gathered
her tools and started home. While she was still a long way off, the husband
saw her and ran and clasped her in his arms. And the wife said, "Husband,
I am not more worthy to be called thy wife, nor the mother of they children."
But the husband said to the children, "Run and bring hither a dress and
the best apron. Rush to the market and get a steak off the fatted calf,
and let us have a hot meal once more. For this thy mother was lost but is
found, so rejoice and be merry."
31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies...28
Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth
Highways & Hedges Tracts
Comment: Editor: Steve Van Nattan-- Mom, there is no more
noble work than keeping the home as the Apostle Paul commanded you. Think
of this. You work at keeping records and books for some company. Those
books and records go into a file drawer or onto a hard drive, and in a maximum
of seven years, they are burned or deleted-- your hard work becomes pointless.
That trinket or object you help to manufacture-- how long before it is in
the rubbish on the way to the city dump?
But, how long
will your zeal and love last in the heart of a young boy who has the discipline
and encouragement of his Mom as he leaves for school and as he comes back home?
How long would your life invested make a difference if you stayed home and
home schooled? Even to wives who have no children-- think of the work a
godly woman can do for the local church in visiting the sick and helping the older
women cope with life. Many godly women are sorely missed when they finally
die and go to be with the Lord because their cozy afgans and quilts will no longer
go all over the world to missionaries, and their wisdom and comfort will be greatly
missed by the young wives. These acts of love last for eternity. Keep
thinking-- That's right-- You will get it right soon :-)
Acts 9:36 Now there was at Joppa
a certain disciple named Tabitha, which by interpretation is called Dorcas: this
woman was full of good works and almsdeeds which she did. 37 And it came to pass
in those days, that she was sick, and died: whom when they had washed, they laid
her in an upper chamber. 38 And forasmuch as Lydda was nigh to Joppa, and
the disciples had heard that Peter was there, they sent unto him two men, desiring
him that he would not delay to come to them. 39 Then Peter arose and went
with them. When he was come, they brought him into the upper chamber: and all
the widows stood by him weeping, and shewing the coats and garments which Dorcas
made, while she was with them.
Many times when people
find out that we have seven children they will say, "Oh, you poor woman," or to
my husband, "Oh, your poor wife." And many times I find myself giving myself
a pity party, "Oh, poor me! I never have time to do anything. I don't
even have time to do anything for the Lord." But is this really true?
As I dwell upon this thought many times, the Holy Spirit deals
with me severely. Many Scripture verses come to mind and I have to bow my
head there and say, "Lord, forgive me. I'm so selfish. I'm so unworthy
of the precious children You've entrusted me with. Help me to do Your will."
And what is the Lord's will for the Christian mother? 1
Timothy 5:14 says, " I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children,
guide the house..."
The Webster Dictionary
has this to say about "guide:"
"Guide - implies the showing
of the way by one who is thoroughly familiar with the course, and connotes his
continuous presence or direction along the way."
women will argue with the verse in Titus 2:5, using the same tactic of Eve, that
of changing the Word, by saying, "I can keep my house as clean as anyone and work
a job too." And maybe you can. But you can't be "...keepers at home.."
and you sure can't "... guide the house..." and work a job, too.
Notice that definition of guide: First of all we have to be thoroughly familiar
with the course ourselves before we can guide the house. Then our presence
is needed continually along the way. This is the will of God. When
we "guide the house" we are doing something for the Lord. We are obeying
Him! Isn't that all He requires? Isn't that what pleases Him?
I believe, in guiding the house, this would include the regular
duties of the housewife such as cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing, etc., as
well as teaching these things to the children. But even more we should
guide them (speaking mainly in regards to the children) in spiritual matters.
Proverbs 22:6 gives a promise that if we do - "Train
up a child in the way he should go:" then "...when
he is old, he will not depart from it."
What a blessed promise!
But what does
the word "train" imply? Is it to just take your children to Sunday School
and church and see that they say their prayers, as many Christians seem to think?
What does "train up a child" involve? Again we look a the Webster
"Train - to guide or control the mental, moral,
etc. development of."
According to this verse we are to
guide (show the way) and control (exercise authority over; direct; command) the
mental, moral, etc. development of our children and our continual presence is
needed to do this, as the word "guide" implies.
lies upon us as mothers. This involves much more than taking them to S.S.
and church. It involves our lives, day in and day out, twenty-four hours
of every day.
Sure, this calls for sacrifice on our part,
but what greater reward could we want than to spend eternity in heaven with our
children! Or what a greater sacrifice it would be to lose our children to
the world and the devil and an eternity in hell!
let's be as the wise virgins and wake up and trim our lamps in this area of "guiding
the house" for "...Behold,
the bridegroom cometh..." [Matthew
25:6] Let's go out to meet Him with our children!
- Written by Kathy R., now the mother of eight.
[Editor's Note- How can you guide your children in this Biblical
manner if they are attending a public or even a Christian school? A "continuous
presences" cannot be obtained if the children are spending the majority of the
day away from their mother. And what is even worse, is when that time is spent
with unsaved, ungodly worldlings and/or with carnal Christians that rejoice
in destroying your children! Psalms
127:3 Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb
is his reward. Are you being faithful with the hertitage
God has given you? Romans 14:12 So then
every one of us shall give account of himself to God.]
send your testimony of:
- how God delivered you from the work place.
the blessedness of keeping at home.
- the home business God has given
and backgrounds by mary vannattan